Where the hell is daddy instincts???

I know i carried her for 9 months so my motherly instincts have kicked in since the day we brought her home but her dad is driving me crazy where the hell is his daddy instincts?examples .. the pacifier feel on the floor the dog put it in his mouth and had it for about a minute when i found out i said "lets throw it away" SMART GUY (husband) says "lets just wash it off " wtf would he want to risk that? Another example...i wanted to check her temp so i told him lets go tonight and get a thermometer he says "lets just do it tomorrow" why the hell would i want to wait? im just tired of him acting like she is a doll instead of a baby i don't think he get it and im ready to smack him so hard he might end up back in his mothers womb! when will his daddy instincts kick in?